Let fulfilling relationships and satisfying careers follow you – instead of you pursuing them!
Does it sound idealistic and impractical?
But, haven’t we met people who do it effortlessly and wondered how they do it? The first step is to SAY NO TO HAPPINESS.
The most critical aspect of creating fulfilling relationships is to be selfless, which leads us to become loving and accepting of our partners. We hear such instructions from relationship experts, religious leaders, and others, who say that our goal of fulfilling relations will become a reality if we follow these prescriptions.
Isn’t this common knowledge? Who doesn’t know the importance of selflessness, love, understanding, and acceptance? Though all of us know this, we also find that the truly authentic relationships are so rare! Why are our relationships far from fulfilling, despite our theoretical knowledge of how to create great relationships? It clearly is a problem of implementation.
When the relationship goal is our happiness, we tend to become selfish. The most important instruction of being selfless doesn’t happen, so we start pretending to be loving, understanding and accepting. This pretense creates fissures in relationships. When we SAY NO TO HAPPINESS, we become less selfish and the relationship moves towards authenticity.
The paradigm shift of removing happiness as our goal creates a sense of purposelessness. Even though happiness is elusive, at least it existed as an illusory goal. This purpose vacuum has to be filled with an alternate goal because it is impossible for us to live without a goal. Otherwise, we will switch back to our goal of ‘happiness’. This alternate goal is elaborated in the book SAY NO TO HAPPINESS.
The book is about how we can practically implement all that we know theoretically. This approach of ‘SAY NO TO HAPPINESS’ is not only about relationships but also about leadership, parenting, spirituality – in short, every aspect of our life. It is a counterintuitive approach to living a far more fulfilling life and is founded on the author’s personal experience of jumping out of the happiness paradigm.